Monday, October 24, 2011

Words Meant to Hurt

Being divorced and having children with a man who is incapable of seeing his faults is frustrating.  Frustrating is quite possibly the nicest way I can put that.  My ex husband and I don't see eye to eye.  He is honestly the one person in my life, that I wish would simply disappear.  However, he is the one person in my children's life, I hope never does.  (Its a strange mix of emotions I assure you).

At this point he and I try to do our best by the children.  We have 50/50 custody and split all holidays bi-annually. This year he has the kids for Thanksgiving, and as we are texting out the schedule change details he decides this is his opportune time to belittle me and my life.  Where I fight the urge to write all the nasty remarks, I have decided to turn my cheek and let it fall off my back.

 I will though learn from this.  People who speak words (or in this case text them) with intentions to just hurt. To dig at, or to blatantly be rude to a person, is no person I want in my life.  This is one of many reminders that I have daily that solidify my decision to leave my marriage.  A decision that was the hardest thing I ever did. (for the sake of my children).  

His remarks remind me why I am so in love with my boyfriend.  Why I am so blessed to have the breath of fresh air that he is in my life. And how lucky my children are, to be able to see the way a man is supposed to treat a woman... and even luckier that I have a man in my world that loves me just as much.

Ex... eat your words, and live in your miserable life.  I however will sleep well tonight and be hopeful for what tomorrow will bring.


Lisa Fender said...

This is the hardest part of divorce, dealing with the "Ex" but yours is the exception! I am hoping one day he will realize that the only people he is hurting are the kids. I wish for all your sakes that he would grow up and look at himself, but at least you look at the bright side, Jon! Jon is a good man who loves you and the kids and thank the Gods he is there to help pick up the pieces that your Ex leaves behind!

R.G. Calkins said...

The only power that hurtful words have on us are what we give them. You are so right to let them fall. Imagine each one crumbling into individual letters and you are left with just that, a pile of alphabet. You can sweep them up and throw them away.

The brief time I spent meeting Jon and having dinner with your family last weekend, showed me a man that is comfortable in his own skin, comfortable, patient and kind to your children, and who loves you as well as the kids. I'm glad that you have someone like that in your life.

All the best -Robin

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